I specialize in working with people who have Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s primarily the one disorder nearly no therapists touch. These are clients who have terrible traumatic backgrounds, including any kind of physical/sexual/emotional abuse. Their parents never validated any of their emotions. They grew up to not even trust how they are feeling. They become emotionally extreme on every aspect because it’s the only way they trust what they are feeling. If they are mad they are fighting and yelling. If they are sad they are self harming and thinking about suicide. If they are nervous they are having a panic attack. Everything is extreme. They doubt who they are, they doubt how they feel, and they take over that invalidating habbit their parents raised them on and start invalidating themselves the same way. They believe their friends will eventually find out who they really are and will start talking shit about them – so they always seem paranoid. They self-sabotage anytime something starts going well because they don’t like challenging the idea that “I’m not good enough”. So they tend to drop out of school with a month left, they cheat on their significant other so that they are the one who gets broken up with, they create controversy in jobs so they get fired. Anything to prove that they suck as a person . (All subconsciously of course).
I work with them to help provide the actual skills to live that their parents didn’t teach. I provide them ways to cope with negative feelings, I provide them ways to actually allow themselves to feel bad. We learn how to effectively and appropriately experience all emotions. As a Therapist, I help them learn that it’s not all their fault – and a lot of this is a product of their parents or upbringing. I help give them actual living skills to deal with other people and their own emotions. We learn how to identify toxic relationships and how to get out of them. We get better at finding healthy relationships. We learn how to deal with life when all these skills don’t work and shit literally hits the fan.
And I’m not nice all the time – I tell them what they don’t want to hear (but what they need to hear) . Sometimes my clients walk out of my office with their middle finger raised at me, but they always come back because it’s what they need to hear. I help provide them actual tools, we prepare for a plan for them to eventually leave therapy, and we do it. And it works. My people get better, and fast. They constantly tell me I’m far better than their other therapists that just tell them what they want to hear.
I LOVE animals… all animals, particularly dogs. I have two huskies at the moment who are stubborn as hell but I LOVE their free spirit and their stubbornness. I love nature. I’m a huge hippy who loves the woods, mountains, and particularly the ocean. I LOVE the ocean. Any body of water makes me happy, even running rivers. I often take time out during my day to sit quietly by streams, in the woods, lakes, etc.
I love video games. I’m a total nerd. I still play World of Warcraft and have played since college when it was released . I didn’t realized how much of a nerd I was until I stopped caring what other people thought about me and I got to actually be myself instead of being a cool bad ass.
I also love science – quantum physics particularly. I love the idea of space, and I love the idea that we are all connected on a quantum physics level. I think it’s super cool. I also love neuroscience and base most of my therapy from actual scientific research worldwide. Most often my clients leave with an article that they can read proving that what I said wasn’t total BS and it’s based off of such and such theory/research. My clients think it’s hilarious! lol.
I really want to be a fisherman when I grow up, I want to work for NASA, I want to run a doggy day care, I want to own a bed and breakfast in the Caribbean, I want to be an anthropologist and study ancient pyramids, I want to be a marine biologist and work in the ocean, I want to be a engineer and come up with green energy like TESLA, and I want my family to live in the middle of Costa Rica all by our secluded self with fully self-sustainable off the grid home and garden.
I tend to be super laid back but I’m really politically active. I love everything liberal but I also love shooting my guns. I am a walking contradiction. lol.
I met my wife once at a christian family camp that our parents made us go to as a freshman in high school. She was super hot and I wanted to date her but we were both in other relationships at the time. I didn’t see her again until college (sophomore year) when her best friend was dating my best friend. He brought her over to my house to have some beers for the night and boom – we started dating until we got married, still married to this day now with a baby girl who’s a year and a half old.
Emily Holmes, M.S., Ed.S, NCC, LPCA
Emily believes that we are all capable of change, but sometimes that change isn’t possible without a little help and a better understanding of ourselves and the world around us. As a counselor, Emily believes that increased self-awareness is the first step toward living a better life. The second step is developing a greater awareness of external circumstances that may be contributing to distress. And the third step is to use this increased awareness to modify thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in order to improve coping and life management, facilitate healing, and encourage more healthy interactions with others. Emily actively engages her clients in this process by working collaboratively with them to identify personal goals, strengths, and challenges throughout the counseling process. Emily primarily utilizes Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy in counseling; however, she also incorporates elements of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Person-Centered Therapy, in addition to experiential, mind-body, and/or creative techniques based on each client’s individual needs.
Emily has over five years of post-graduate experience as a professional counselor. She has worked with adolescents, college students, and adults in both residential and outpatient settings and has conducted both individual and group therapy. Emily also has experience working with substance abuse and mental illness as a case manager. In addition to working at The Krumroy Group, Emily is also a mental health counselor at Greensboro College. Emily has worked with clients on a variety of issues including but not limited to—mood and anxiety disorders, adjustment disorders, trauma, personality disorders, substance
use, ADHD, and family and relationship concerns.
Emily is a National Certified Counselor (NCC) and a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate (LPCA) in the state of North Carolina. Emily earned her Master’s and Education Specialist degrees in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro and her undergraduate degree at Western Carolina University. In her spare time, Emily enjoys the outdoors, movies, and having adventures with her husband and three young children. To schedule an appointment with Emily, you may email her at email@example.com.
Travis Bogan, Counselor, MA, LPC-A, NCC
My name is Travis Bogan and I live in Greensboro with my wife, two boys, and our dog. We are transplants originally from Bangor, Maine. I enjoy being a real person with my clients as I think that’s important to doing good work together. What I love most about counseling is seeing people recognize their self-limiting beliefs about themselves, others, and the world, and use that knowledge to make changes in their lives for the better. It’s an honor to be a “friend on the path” to my clients, and my greatest reward is seeing my clients construct the lives the want and put their plans into action.
To schedule an appointment with Travis, you may email him at firstname.lastname@example.org.