Getting to know your therapist is important! Here is a little bit about me.
I specialize in working with people who have Borderline Personality Disorder. It’s primarily the one disorder nearly no therapists touch. These are clients who have terrible traumatic backgrounds, including any kind of physical/sexual/emotional abuse. Their parents never validated any of their emotions. They grew up to not even trust how they are feeling. They become emotionally extreme on every aspect because it’s the only way they trust what they are feeling. If they are mad they are fighting and yelling. If they are sad they are self harming and thinking about suicide. If they are nervous they are having a panic attack. Everything is extreme. They doubt who they are, they doubt how they feel, and they take over that invalidating habbit their parents raised them on and start invalidating themselves the same way. They believe their friends will eventually find out who they really are and will start talking shit about them – so they always seem paranoid. They self-sabotage anytime something starts going well because they don’t like challenging the idea that “I’m not good enough”. So they tend to drop out of school with a month left, they cheat on their significant other so that they are the one who gets broken up with, they create controversy in jobs so they get fired. Anything to prove that they suck as a person . (All subconsciously of course).
I work with them to help provide the actual skills to live that their parents didn’t teach. I provide them ways to cope with negative feelings, I provide them ways to actually allow themselves to feel bad. We learn how to effectively and appropriately experience all emotions. I help them learn that it’s not all their fault – and a lot of this is a product of their parents or upbringing. I help give them actual living skills to deal with other people and their own emotions. We learn how to identify toxic relationships and how to get out of them. We get better at finding healthy relationships. We learn how to deal with life when all these skills don’t work and shit literally hits the fan.
And I’m not nice all the time – I tell them what they don’t want to hear (but what they need to hear) . Sometimes my clients walk out of my office with their middle finger raised at me, but they always come back because it’s what they need to hear. I help provide them actual tools, we prepare for a plan for them to eventually leave therapy, and we do it. And it works. My people get better, and fast. They constantly tell me I’m far better than their other therapists that just tell them what they want to hear.
I LOVE animals… all animals, particularly dogs. I have two huskies at the moment who are stubborn as hell but I LOVE their free spirit and their stubbornness. I love nature. I’m a huge hippy who loves the woods, mountains, and particularly the ocean. I LOVE the ocean. Any body of water makes me happy, even running rivers. I often take time out during my day to sit quietly by streams, in the woods, lakes, etc.
I love video games. I’m a total nerd. I still play World of Warcraft and have played since college when it was released . I didn’t realized how much of a nerd I was until I stopped caring what other people thought about me and I got to actually be myself instead of being a cool bad ass.
I also love science – quantum physics particularly. I love the idea of space, and I love the idea that we are all connected on a quantum physics level. I think it’s super cool. I also love neuroscience and base most of my therapy from actual scientific research worldwide. Most often my clients leave with an article that they can read proving that what I said wasn’t total BS and it’s based off of such and such theory/research. My clients think it’s hilarious! lol.
I really want to be a fisherman when I grow up, I want to work for NASA, I want to run a doggy day care, I want to own a bed and breakfast in the Caribbean, I want to be an anthropologist and study ancient pyramids, I want to be a marine biologist and work in the ocean, I want to be a engineer and come up with green energy like TESLA, and I want my family to live in the middle of Costa Rica all by our secluded self with fully self-sustainable off the grid home and garden.
I tend to be super laid back but I’m really politically active. I love everything liberal but I also love shooting my guns. I am a walking contradiction. lol.
I met my wife once at a christian family camp that our parents made us go to as a freshman in high school. She was super hot and I wanted to date her but we were both in other relationships at the time. I didn’t see her again until college (sophomore year) when her best friend was dating my best friend. He brought her over to my house to have some beers for the night and boom – we started dating until we got married, still married to this day now with a baby girl who’s a year and a half old.